Take Absolute Responsibility for Your Results !

Take Absolute Responsibility for Your Results !

"He made me angry."
"My divorce is really depressing me".
"My kids are driving me crazy."
"My unappreciative boss is driving me to a nervous breakdown".

The statements above have one thing in common ; blaming others and not taking responsibility for one's state.

As long as blame is cast outside ourselves, our states will be out of our control. Most people allow their emotions to run their lives which results in them feeling powerlessness and helplessness.

If you are upset, you are choosing to be upset. If you are excited, you are choosing to be excited. Remember, no one can affect how you feel unless you allow them to. The moment you realize this, you can choose to feel differently.

For example, if you get fired unfairly, you can choose to feel depressed and wallow in self-pity. You can also choose to be all fired up making a success of yourself, letting your ex-company regret their decision in firing you !

In fact, some of the greatest companies in the world were built by men who were motivated to get back at their ex-companies for firing them.

The most famous example is what Lee Iacocca did when Henry Ford 11 fired him ( a personality clash ). He simply left and joined a rival motor company ( Chrysler ), turned that ailing company into a direct rival and competitor of Ford.

Another example is the actions that Ivana Trump took when real estate magnet Donald Trump dumped her for a younger woman. Instead of drowning her 'loss' with alcohol, anti depressants and wrecking her health, she made herself more glamorous publicly announcing to other wronged wives, "Don't get mad, get even !" and eventually proceeded to wrestling a mega settlement from him.

A point to take note off, taking absolute responsibility for whatever happens does not mean blaming oneself. Taking responsibility and blaming yourself is totally different. Some people blame themselves for everything - and that is not a useful pattern.

By blaming yourself, you beat yourself up only to find yourself feeling helpless and depressed. "It's my fault that I'm so stupid, I really screwed up again."

This is not what taking responsibility is all about. Taking responsibility means acknowledging the fact that the choices you made in the past have contributed to your present situation. Instead of feeling bad, place yourself in a state of possibility by putting the choice back in your own hands.

The key elements that drive our actions and results are the emotional states we experience. When we feel excited and motivated, we are more likely to take action that will lead to great results. But when we are upset and depressed, we rarely make good decisions or do anything productive

Successful individuals choose to feel empowered and positive even in the most dire of circumstances. This is how they feel constantly motivated to improve their situation.

People who are in control of their lives believe they create their world. If everything is going great, then they created it, not anyone else. If things are not going well, then they created it as well. From this moment onwards, start taking responsibility for your feelings and results.

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What Drives Our Actions ?

What Drives Our Actions ?

So, what really drives our actions ? What makes us behave the way we behave ? Why are there some people in life who are so consistently motivated to get up at six a.m., go for a jog, come back, plan their time and make good decisions and produce results ?

But, why do most people, on the other hand, hardly get anything done ? They talk a lot, they talk about dreams, but they find it very hard to drag themselves back home at the end of the day, you know much less plan for the next few days ahead.

Do you think that our behaviors are driven more by logic or by emotions ? It is based on what we think we should do or what we really feel like doing inside ?

Think of all the times you knew that you should have started on the project but putting it off again and again because, you know what, you did not feel like doing it.

Think of all the times when you knew you should have made those appointments or to make that presentation. But, you never did because you felt this feeling of procrastination, lack of confidence, or even fear.

Now, think of all the times when you knew that logically you should not have taken that extra piece of cake, but you did because you felt compulsion. Or even think of the time you knew you should have said the important point at the presentation but you did not because you just felt too distraction or just too nervous.

Indeed, you can see that the way we act and behave is driven maybe by how we feel emotionally. That is why you can logically want to change and take action. But, you never will if your emotion does not support it.

Emotions you feel at any given time, they are called your states and they drive your action and your results.

Take charge of your states and you take charge of your life !

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How You Can Apply NLP Today !

How You Can Apply NLP Today !

NLP first came about when these two gentlemen, Dr. Richard Bandler and Dr. John Grinder, decided to model people who were excellent in creating change in others.

More specifically, they wanted to model linguistic experts who could change people through speaking, through their words and therapies.

Through all their surveys and all their research, they found three people. One of them was a person called Milton Erickson who was a clinical therapist who had the ability to create changes in people when many other therapists failed.

The other person they went forth and modeled was this person called Virginia Satir, She was known as the mother of family therapy. Couples who were not successful going through all kind of therapies would go to Satir.

Through her use of language and the way in which she talks to people ; the way she processes information, she created results that many therapists were unable to produce.

The third person they went forth to model was this person called Fritz Pearls who was a gestalt therapist.

Now take note that these three masters of communication, FritzPearls, Milton Erickson, and Virginia Satir, were masters of change but it took them many years in honing their craft and many of them did not even know how they did it consciously, they were just good at it.

So by modeling this three people, Richard Bandler and John Grinder created the first set of NLP on the Milton Model and the Meta Model. And when they taught this to people who didn't necessary have twenty thirty years of therapeutic experience, guess what, they were able to produce similar results as these three people could.

Since NLP was created, this science has soon found its way into different forms of application.

The first example is sales. If you found someone who is an extremely good sales person, someone who has taken many years to perfect his sales strategy, there would certainly be a difference in the way he speaks, the way he looks, the way he presents his product.

By modeling him, you can be able to produce similar results to what he has been achieving.

Similarly, if you found someone who may have been a fantastic teacher, someone who is able to build great rapport with students, someone who is able to get through to them, change their mindset and motivate these students to study, could you go this teacher who has twenty years of experiences ; model her strategy and produce the same result ?

The answer is yes !

NLP can be also be applied by students wanting to achieve excellent results.

By modeling students who are extremely good in the different areas of study such as mathematics, science or humanities, one can begin to produce the same results in a short period of time by modeling the successful student who has been consistent in producing the excellent results.

Think about it, anyone who succeeds in their life and produces exceptional results in whatever area they are in ; all of them exhibit certain general patterns. In other words, there is always a strategy to success that we can model from people who are extremely successful in the particular skill set or area they are in.

NLP is a powerful form of science that everyone should be introduced to. By modeling a person's patterns of excellence, and by installing them within yourself as well as running the same program into your brain, you will be able to produce the same excellent results.

Get started today, find out more about the power of NLP today !

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Are You A Victim in Life ?

Are You A Victim in Life ?

... 'If only I had more time.'

... 'If only my husband could be more understanding.'

... 'If only my boss would die !'

... 'If only my son could be more motivated.'

... 'If only I could get better customers',

these are the common litany of excuses one would hear.

People who believe themselves to be victims say that the only way for their lives to change for the better is when other people get better, or if the business-social environment improves.

As long as you keep thinking that it is not your fault, that something else must change, you will continue to feel helpless and powerless. By continuing to play the victim, you will be totally at the mercy of your environment

Why do so many people Choose to be a Victim ?

Time to time, we find ourselves unconsciously lapsing into victim mode till it leads to being an undesirable part of makeup. Do you have friends and acquaintances who complain non-stop about their employers, colleagues, spouse, society at large, or the government ?

How about you ?

Without any intention of being cold and heartless, the fact stays ; as long as people convince themselves to be the victims of circumstance, they will never be able to take charge, learn from their experiences, move on and change their lives for the better.

Why do we do this ? The simple reason being it makes us feel good ! By playing the victim, we get lots of sympathy, don't we ? At the same time, we want to feel assured that we were in the right by justifying our own actions.

Soon, complaining becomes therapeutic. After all the complaining, we actually feel relieved of an emotional burden.

Beneficial as it may seem, though playing the victim appears to have lots of payoffs, the cost of doing so is high for as long as we blame something or someone else, we rob ourselves of the power to take charge, and change the situation.

Giving Excuses and Blaming Others Takes Power Away from You

The reality is that most people act in a way that puts others in charge of their life.

When something doesn't work in their life, they choose to give excuses, blame others and complain. The problem with this is that by doing so, you are putting others in control of your life. You put yourself in the role of victim.

This is the reason causing most people feel totally helpless, with no control over what is happening to them. Most of the time the outside world will not change ... not until we change first !

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What Is Neuro Linguistic Programming Actually ?

What Is Neuro Linguistic Programming Actually ?

NLP is basically a science of how you take charge of your life and how do you use the language of your mind to program your nervous system to consistently produce a fantastic result.

Before we begin, I want to say Thanks to Adam Khoo and Stuart Tan, to have this opportunity to learn what is NLP from them.

Now, lets share with you the most powerful and relevant of tools of NLP, that have enabled me to create excellence in own lives and the lives of many people.

The first thing I learned in NLP was the power of my beliefs. I learned that it was really my beliefs that determine what i will or will not do in our lives. And again, the trouble with me at that time when i was a small kid, was I used to believe I was slow, I used to believe I was stupid, I used to believe that no one will like me and that prevented me from really expanding my potential.

It is nothing but the beliefs and before our life changes, we got to change our belief. It is the fundamental belief that everyone needs to begin to create exceptional results in their life and the belief is this, 'All of us have got the same neurology'.

In other words, all of us have got the basically same kind of brain power, same hardware. If it's possible for someone, it's possible for you. So my teacher came up to me at that time and said this, "If someone can be in the gifted program, and so can you."

Now, because of I was pretty young and pretty naive, I bought the idea and I actually believed him. But you know as well as I do by changing beliefs by itself is not going to work. You cannot sit down there and believe that, you know, that does not happen. But what beliefs do is beliefs open up the possibility for you to find a way to get it done.

For example, if every morning, someone can wake up at 6 a.m. and feel completely motivated, it is because they produce that specific result. If we can program our nervous system in the same way, we can produce the same result through language and it is the language of the mind, not just language of the words. And using this technology, we begin to take charge of virtually every area of our lives.

We can begin to produce exceptional results within a very short period of time, and that is the magic of what this technology is all about. And we can derive our passion to help everyone and around us to tap into the limitless of potential of their own human spirit.

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How to Take Consistent Action to Achieve Success

How to Take Consistent Action to Achieve Success

Consistent Action is what separates the thinkers or dreamers from the doers.

Many highly educated people know what to do, they think they know how to do it, but they never do anything about it. That is why many of them end up as professionals and consultants, working for successful entrepreneurs who had mediocre grades in school.

Fine, if that's what they want in life, nothing wrong as long as they are fulfilled.

But if you are not satisfied with your status quo, then DO something about it.

Do you know someone who may be less talented and intelligent than you are but is a lot more successful ? Have you ever asked yourself, 'I know I am better than they are, but why are they so much more successful ?'

Well, you may be smarter, but they take a lot more action and that is why they get a lot more results ! And one of the actions they take may well mean their learning rapport/social building skills and team work skills, all necessary tools for any kind of success.

So why do so many intelligent people fail to take consistent action towards their goals ?

Well, first understand that what drives our actions are the emotional states that we experience. Emotions like fear, inertia, anxiety and uncertainty paralyze us from taking action. On the other hand emotions like enthusiasm, motivation and confidence excite us and get us to make things happen.

The ability to direct and manage your states for peak performanceis what is called Personal Mastery.

Many people seem to brim over with great ideas and they have the intelligence to be successful, but they lack the personal mastery to direct their emotions into getting them to take action.

They may have a great business idea, but their fear holds them back. They may set inspiring new goals, but they lack the motivation to do what it takes. They may even get themselves to take action initially, but stop once they experience frustration or anxiety.

Learn to be in control of your emotional states and you will overcome feelings of fear, anxiety and procrastination and this will propel you forward to take massive action to achieve your goals.

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Action To Achieve Whatever You Want !

Action To Achieve Whatever You Want !

In the Ultimate Success Formula, we say that once you get clear on what you want, you have to develop a strategy and start taking action, consistent action every single day.

And when you take action, two things can happen. Number one, you will achieve your goals, you move towards your goals, or you get feed back, which you will then use to change your strategy and keep taking action again and again until you get what you want.

So, the key to getting results is really in taking action. In fact, if you look at Ultimate Success Formula, the one thing that most people do not do is that they do not take action.

The results you are experiencing in your life right now are truly determined by the past actions you have taken. If you are experiencing great results right now, it is because in the past you have taken the actions. You took the action on making the calls, managing your time, following through and learning from your mistakes.

At the same time, if right now you are experiencing average results, or below average results, it is because you have either not taken the necessary action or did so, but soon gave up. You did not make those calls consistently. You never followed through. You said you would do it, but you DO NOT do it. You did not consistently execute your plans. Or worse still, you did not even plan at all.

You can set all your goals, you can come out with all your great plans, but if you do not act on those plans consistently, nothing ever happens. Where as when you take action, even if you use the wrong strategy, pretty soon, by taking enough action, you will find a way on how to get it done. And, so we say that actions produce results.

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Use 'Must' Language to Succeed in Life !

Use 'Must' Language to Succeed in Life !

Just by listening to the words people use, you can tell how truly committed they are to achieve a certain result. You can tell if there is any power and conviction behind what they say. And you can tell straight away the people who will eventually succeed and those who won't.

For example, if someone says, 'I would like to finish this project by today' and someone else says, 'I must finish this project by today.' Who would you bet your money on ?

The words we use represent the way we frame the thoughts in our mind. If you observe and pay attention to the most charismatic and influential leaders like ( the late ) Martin Luther King, Lee Kwan Yew, Bill Clinton, they consistently use the word 'must' in their speeches rather than 'should' or 'could'.

Similarly, the words we use on ourselves will impact how were present something in our minds. When we use certain words like 'should', 'would like' or 'wish', we hardly get a sense of conviction or urgency.

These words do not compel us to take immediate action. The next time you are putting off doing something or feel like giving up halfway, pay attention to the words that are firing off in your mind. I bet you it would be a 'I could ...' or a 'I wish ...'

I want you to begin noticing that every time you take action, it is because the word 'must' is firing off in your mind. Like when your assignment, report or quote is due tomorrow morning and you have not done a thing and it's already midnight.

You see, words evoke different emotions within us. Instead of allowing the 'must' to come when it is too late, you can consciously begin controlling the words you use on yourself and others to invoke a powerful response in their actions.

So start using 'must' and it will get you what you want.

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How to Achieve Anything You Want !

How to Achieve Anything You Want !

Why is it that so few people are willing to keep changing and taking action until they get what they want ? Why do so many people quit along the way ?

Worse still, why do some people even procrastinate in initiatingaction ? The reason is that while everybody desires to succeed, only a few are truly COMMITTED to their goals.

For most people, having more money, more freedom, more security and more success is a desire. They think it would really be great to have it. But they can live without it, if they had to. As a result, they never take action as something more important always comes up to fill up their time.

When a goal is nothing more than a feeble desire or a wish, you will find yourself being held back by setbacks, frustration and failures.

People whose goals are nothing more than desires will only do whatever is within their comfort zone to achieve it.

Beyond that, they will give themselves all kinds of excuses for not doing it. As a result, they will never do whatever it takes to get what they want.

There was once a financial advisor who had been in the business for five years and had attended many seminars and read many books on sales and success.

Right from the start, he had set goals to achieve the Million Dollar Round Table, which represents the top 6% of advisors in the world. However, he couldn't understand why he never got close to the mark, despite working 'so hard'.

He asked for help and was given a whole list of action steps and strategies he had to put in place to increase his sales. He was told that he needed to make 20 cold calls a day, attend two networking functions a week, invest in impressive looking brochures, spend his nights targeting night shift workers ( who area big untapped segment ), spend his weekends presenting seminars and organizing road-shows with side walk surveys.

He was also told to upgrade his product knowledge skills every month. By doing all these things was going to stretch him well beyond his comfort zone. He was not prepared to give up his weekends ; he was not prepared to spend some late nights prospecting nor was he willing to invest money in brochures & upgrade his skills.

He started coming out with excuses like 'I don't have the time', 'I don't have the money', ' I don't like reading', 'I've never done it before', 'It's too much work' and so on.

He would use even one of the techniques that suggested, even though he knew that it was a proven formula. This man is typical of those who set goals but are not prepared to do whatever it takes.

Unfortunately, most people are like that ; they are not willing to do what it takes to become successful. And because of that, they never will be. Success doesn't happen by chance, you must do the necessary before you can enjoy the fruits of your labor.

If you understand this and apply it in your life, you will among the top 5% of people who make success a must and therefor receive in abundance everyday.

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Be Very Specific About Your Goal

Be Very Specific About Your Goal

The first step to getting what you want is to know exactly what it is that you want. This sounds simple and obvious enough ?

Yet, sadly most people never seem to get what they want, simply because they are not clear about what it is they want in the first place !

Unless you have a specific target, you cannot develop an effective strategy to get there. The strategy required to make $200,000 is completely different from the strategy needed to make $20 million.

The moment you clarify your goals, see them in your mind-eye ( it's called creative visualization ) you will start to have focus in your life. It will then become crystal clear to you what it is you must do to get there.

Biographies of the most successful and legendary people, again in all pursuits, show time and again that their outstanding achievements are rarely outcomes of chance. They did not have success thrust onto them.

Their phenomenal successes are the results of clearly defined outcomes that they had predetermined, and worked towards unwaveringly, often at a very early stage of their life.

At the age of eight, Tiger Woods set his goal of breaking every record set in golf and to become the world's number one golfer. He accomplished this feat 13 years later at the age of 21. How ?

He spent those fourteen years focusing on his game in order to take it to the level he needed in order to be the best.

At the age of 12, Steven Spielberg knew that what he wanted to do was to tell stories to the world by making movies.

It was this specific goal that directed him to spend his time making home videos at the age of 12 and exposing himself to movie sets at universal studios at the age of 18. It was these years of focused effort that allowed him to build the level of experience and skill he needed to make some of the best movies around.

Very few successful experiences happen by chance ... whether it is winning a race or a position. Almost all happen by design. Yet, the sad fact is that most people do not have a plan for their lives, and end up falling into somebody else's plan.

It's only when we know what we want very specifically that we are then able to focus all our talents and energy.

Like a laser beam honing in on its target. And in moving unwaveringly towards it, we develop the resources necessary to make it happen. Wherever you are in your life right now, you must begin to set specific goals on what you want to achieve in the different areas of your life.

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How Do I Set Goals That Become Reality ?

How Do I Set Goals That Become Reality ?

All of us know the Importance of Setting Goals. We know that before we can achieve anything, we must first know what we want. It is said that everything is created twice. Only when we first create something in our mind, will it then manifest into our physical reality.

Goals give us a definite direction with which to focus our energies on. Without goals, our decisions and actions will not be directed and we will end up going nowhere. It is when we stay focused on a specific goal, develop an effective strategy and keep taking action, we will eventually realize it.

Then, why is it that so many people do not achieve their goals ? Why have so many people 'tried' goal setting but it has not worked for them ? The answer is because they have not set goals in an effective way.

To most people, mere dreaming and setting of new year's resolution are their idea of goal setting. This just simply does not work. Many people for example, make a new year's resolution to 'lose weight'. When do they check in on the goal ? The following year ! And sure enough, it was not achieved. So what do they do ? They set another new year's resolution and the unsuccessful cycle continues.

To set goals that drive you and give you focus, you must make your goals very specific. Unless you know specifically what it is you want, you cannot develop an effective strategy to reach it. Successful people know exactly what they want in life and if you want to be successful, you must do the same.

Specific goals give you the focus needed to take action. When you know exactly what your goal is, you will know exactly what action is required to get there. So set specific goals for yourself and you will find them manifesting soon enough.

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